Do
you ever pay attention to the thoughts
inside your mind? And more importantly
do you ever notice the way in which
you talk to yourself?
We
all pay a lot of attention to the
way we communicate with the outside
world but we often neglect to improve
the way we
communicate with ourselves.
When
it comes to motivating yourself to
be a better person, to do better at
work or to create a happier family
life you need to
understand the importance of taking
control of your self talk.
Here
are three tips you can use right away
to motivate yourself:
1.
Talk to yourself the way you talk
to someone you love
Be
honest! Is it true you sometimes
insult yourself, curse yourself
and say horrible things about your
abilities?
If
you spoke like this regularly to
someone you care about they would
leave and never talk to you again.
There is no excuse
for treating yourself so badly.
Talk
to yourself the way you would talk
to someone you deeply love. Be respectful,
patient and understanding. Be slow
to anger, quick to praise and grateful
for the opportunity to listen.
Be
on your best behavior when you talk
to yourself and you will find that
you treat other people better as
well. This in turn will cause people
to respond more positively to whatever
you say. These very people will
be more inclined to help you get
what you want.
In
an indirect way your communication
with the outside world will improve.
Very
often we go through our day with an
internal dialogue buzzing away in
the background. We mutter to ourselves
about what we need to do without feeling
particularly inspired to do anything
other than what we have to do.
This
is not an effective strategy for
self motivation! What
you need to do instead is to turn
up the volume, inject some passion
into your words and talk to yourself
with enthusiasm. You would not have
much luck motivating someone else
to take action without putting some
energy into your words. You need
to do the same to motivate yourself.
The
next time you want to motivate yourself
to do something talk to yourself
the same way you would if someone
was standing before you waiting
to be inspired.
Speak
loudly with passion and excitement
either aloud or to yourself inside
your head. The more energy you put
into it the
easier it will be to light the fire
inside you that sparks you into action.
3.
Know how to feel good when you are
having a tough day
No
matter how focused, positive and
hard working you are there will
still be days when nothing seems
to go your way. It is on days like
this that you must take charge of
your brain and take control of your
self talk.
You
need a back catalogue of memories
you can replay to make yourself
feel good. Music does it for me.
I have so many songs I love to hear
that I just pick one out and listen
to it in my mind.
In
a moment I can listen to sounds
that make me feel fantastic simply
by choosing to. For best results
imagine you have a volume control
with bass and treble. Make the music
sound rich, loud and resonant.
A
friend of mine has such a great
memory that he will listen to an
entire CD in his mind. How about
that for a quick and easy way to
feel good whenever you are having
a tough day?
One
final way to use this tip. Replay
happy memories of people telling
you how much they value and appreciate
you. Hear them saying what a difference
you are making and soak up those
wonderful feelings of appreciation.
It
really is your choice as to how you
run your brain. Choose to feel great
and your communication with yourself
and the outside world will become
remarkable. Your motivation will soar
and getting more done each day will
just get easier and easier with eager
people lining up to help you.
